Jaiya and Jon on Playboy Radio!
Hey guys! Please pass this on. We will be on a live show June 3rd and people can call in to ask questions.
Feel free to tell your friends and fans to call in to the show 1(877) 205-9796
Show can be heard by SIRIUS radio subscribers (you may listen to SIRIUS online for a free 3 day trial by going here http://www.sirius.com/freetrial/register).
Playboy Radio channel 198, June 3rd, 2008 between the hours of 11am and 2pm PST.
The Excitement and Bliss of Living Continues
Just when I think things might slow down it seems that more and more shows up on my plate. This past weekend I spent time with my sacred sexuality family at the Daka and Dakini Conference in Sedona AZ. I was most impressed with a speaker named Kelly Bryson who is the author of the book Don’t be Nice, Be Real. My partner and I decided that we should do a private session with him because we were so excited about the communication tools that we felt he could give us. The session with him was a lot more powerful than I thought it would be. I uncovered in myself my own need for a sense of security within. With everything that is going on, DVD releases, book releases, media exposure, moving permanently to LA, and my continued commitment to my own personal growth and development it has been easy to feel overwhelmed and in a place of chaos. Right then I made a commitment to myself to find time everyday to do something that gives me a sense of inner peace and security within me. I also made a commitment during the weekend to take one day off a week and to dedicate this day to personal wellness. I am putting this out to everyone so that I may be held accountable for this bold commitment.
Holding my center and presence through the coming months will allow me to practice what I teach. The book that I co-authored Red Hot Touch: A Head to Toe Handbook for Mind Blowing Orgasms will be released on June 3rd. For those of you in NYC be sure to come out and celebrate with us at the release party on June 7th. I will also appear on Playboy TV’s reality show called “Foursome” and may be shooting an episode with the VH1 show “The Pickup Artist”. And I should also mention a packed teaching schedule in Los Angeles. I am also launching a new program for couples called SPAARK- Sensuality, Pleasure & Arousal As Relationship Kindling. This program is designed to help couples to get the spark back into their love lives and to deepen relationship. I see so many people who love their partners but have difficulty connecting deeply and feeling intimacy, actually this about 85-90% of my practice. This leads to a love life that is less than satisfying or non-existent.
I have done quite a bit of research about why this breakdown occurs and how I can help people to overcome these difficulties. The SPAARK program will guide couples through DVD, audio, e-books, live web classes and private coaching with me via the telephone and tele-seminars. As you can tell I am excited about helping couples overcome their difficulties and ultimately get back to the love and passion that they once had together. I hope to launch this either late June or early July.
I now have two channels on www.liberator.com. You can get a lot of great information about your sexuality there and get a feel for my passion to teach. I am also producing my own on-line channel where I hope to go deeper into offering my teaching on the web. And if you missed the last newsletter I want to let you know that my DVD series is now available for sale at www.newworldsexeducation.com
So, keep and eye out for all my workshops both in person and on-line, as well as my book release, and the launch of the SPAARK program. My excitement about creating content to get this all out to the world is overwhelming and fulfilling.
Schedule
I am pretty much an official nomad, so watch my schedule closely for your city. I may be scheduling a late-summer tour, so please let me know if you would like me to visit your location. The following are locations that I will be visiting over the next few months. Check my website for the latest schedule.
May 17-22 Los Angeles
May 23-25 Lightning in a Bottle Festival
May 26 – Teaching Erogenous Zones at Good Vibes in Berkley
http://www.goodvibes.com/Content--GV-SF-Bay-Area-After-Hours--id-298
May 27- Teaching Ejaculation Mastery at Good Vibes in San Francisco
http://www.goodvibes.com/Content--GV-SF-Bay-Area-After-Hours--id-298
May 28-June 5- Los Angeles
June 6-9- New York City New York
June 7th- Becoming the Ultimate Lover for Men Workshop with Lawrence Lanoff- NYC
June 7th- Red Hot Touch Release Party NYC
June 11- July 30- Los Angeles Available for Private Sessions
June 13th- Tantra for Women- Evening Exploration w/ Ariel 7:30-9:30 Los Angeles
June 14th- Becoming the Ultimate Lover for Men Workshop LA
June 15th- Tantra For Women- Day Long Workshop and Puja w/Ariel- 10-5 Los Angeles
June 20-22- Erotic Trance Weekend Workshop LA
June 28- Red Hot Touch Level 1- Erogenous Zones Workshop
July 12th- Becoming the Ultimate Lover for Men Workshop LA
July 13th- Red Hot Touch Level 2- Genital Massage Workshop
July 18-19- Tantra For Women San Diego w/Ariel
July 25th- Tantra Nights- Evening Experience (Every other week sessions begin)
August 1-3- A Course in Sexual Freedom with Lawrence Lanoff- Sedona AZ
10 Ways to Build Connection and Intimacy
Written By Jaiya
Eye Contact- The eyes are the doorways to a connected sex life. Although it may feel a little funny and vulnerable at first, making eye contact during lovemaking tells your partner that you are present with them and builds sexual trust, which ultimately leads to better orgasms for both of you.
Touch- Massaging, stroking, and caressing all produce Oxytocin, which is the bonding chemical. Touching each other throughout the day creates a feeling of wellbeing and builds longing for each other. Try touching each other without moving into sex, building up the tension for a few days can lead to a deeply connected and explosive intimate encounter.
Breathing- We do it automatically everyday but most of us don’t realize that breathing is a way to heighten pleasure, arousal and connection during lovemaking. When you breathe deeper you bring more oxygen into the body, which allows arousal to build to greater heights. Breathing together instantly connects you and brings you into your bodies so that you can feel more. You can also alternate your breath as you breathe into each other’s mouths; this exercise is very intimate and has been used in ancient traditions as a way to share your soul.
Explicit Talk- Whispering sweet somethings into your partner’s ear can instantly send blood rushing into the genitals and open their heart. With the technology of text messaging we can send romantic reveries to our lover throughout the day. This not only builds anticipation but keeps your partner thinking about you all day, thus increasing the connection between you.
Do Something Extraordinary- Men who help their partner’s clean up around the house get more play, why is this? Well, he is doing something that builds Oxytocin which is a hormone that creates relaxation instead of tension in a relationship. Doing something extraordinary for your partner lets them know how much you care about them. Go somewhere they love to go, do something great for them, make something that takes time and care.
Allow Yourself to Be Vulnerable- In today’s world it takes a lot to let down our guards, especially if we have been hurt before, but letting the walls around us melt and allowing our partner to penetrate us emotionally and physically are some of the best things we can do for a relationship. Honesty and vulnerability are huge turn-ons.
Sensual Feasts- Creating a romantic dinner together with specific foods can actually form deeper bonds. Chocolate for example contains the chemical PEA which is responsible for the feeling of being in love. And avocados boost both the male and female libido. Take time feeding each other and relishing the flavors of the food.
Role Play- We play roles every day- husband/wife, father/mother, seducer/seduce, etc. But if we consciously take on roles in the bedroom when you come back to your more traditional roles in relationship the level of intimacy is heightened. Try erotic masseuse/client or captor/captive. Don’t get too serious about your roles, have fun and play.
Trying Something New/Adventure- Many couples get into patterns when it comes to lovemaking and intimacy. To break free of the bedroom dulldroms do something adventurous. Take a class together at a sexy boutique, go skydiving (it produces PDA, the hormone that makes you feel as if you are in love), do something you have never done in bed but have always wanted to try, purchase some love furniture or other toys.
Setting the Scene- Nothing breaks the mood like cell phones blaring and clutter all over your bedroom. Set the scene for intimacy with sensual music, candles, clean sheets and a shift in environment. Don’t limit intimacy to the bedroom only, you can also create a stage for a encore performance in the living room or kitchen. Think of lovemaking as a theatrical piece, you need the right lighting, right mood, and sets. And stimulating your creativity as you prepare actually stimulates the sexual drive.
Thank you for taking the time to read my newsletter, feel free to contact me with questions and responses to these articles.
Bursting with LOVE
Jaiya |
